What Will Be Our Legacy?


Twenty years ago today my dad went home to be with the Lord. It was sudden and very unexpected. As comforting as it is to know that I will one day see him again, I still think about him and miss him every day, especially when I get a glimpse of him in my children.

A few days after his funeral I remember standing in my sister's living room, not sure how my life was going to return to normal after such a loss. I found out it never really does. You just adapt to a new ‘normal’, knowing that your dad would want you to carry on. I remember saying to my sister on that September morning, “I wonder how this loss will feel after he’s been gone twenty years?”

As I sit here now twenty years later, I can honestly say that I have a better understanding of my dad and the legacy he left on this earth. To this day I still run into people who knew my dad and how much he meant to them. I’ve heard stories of his intelligence, his service to others, but more importantly, I’ve heard about his heart of gold. One of those stories came from a friend of my dads who had asked him how he divides his love between 9 children (yes, I am the 8th of 9 kids!). My dad’s reply came without hesitation. He told this man, “You have the math all wrong. You don’t divide, you multiply.” My dad’s family is his greatest legacy. He sacrificed so much so that we could thrive in life. He owned his own business, supporting nine kids on his single income. It could not have been easy, but he never complained. My dad worked hard, but never missed a single event one of his kids was involved in. He was on the sidelines of every game and in the front row of every performance. His time and dedication to his family were his greatest legacy.

So that brings me to the question, "what will be our legacy to our families?" Society tries to convince us that having the latest and greatest is the best thing we can do for our kids. It is possible that the world's oldest juggling act is balancing time with our family and the need to work to provide for our family. Someone ha